“Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity”
Now what do I do on Sunday? More importantly where is all this leading to?
Now a lot of people and perhaps even you may question the ethics behind dating multiple women. Words as such as “player”, “sleaze” and “jerk” may spring into your mind but I want you to understand that I do not find anything wrong this as long as the women involved are not being “strung along” like a piece of fishing bait dragged along the bottom of the ocean. At the same time, there are people out there who are genuinely interested in meeting and getting to know new people. Like I’ve always said to you, treat others how you want to be treated. As soon as you realize that you are not interested – tell her! And you know what? She would probably thank you for your honesty because she’s probably doing the same to you believe it or not.
“Oh well. Let’s see what’s happening with Michael. That reminds me, I’m seeing Matthew tomorrow and then Mark.” she is saying to herself – it has certainly happened to me.
Dating multiple people at the same time is not as “taboo” as some people may think. You don’t want to be a frog trapped at the bottom of a well and the only view you have on life is a narrow one.
So it then begs the question, why date multiple women in the first place? It’s simple. As you date more and more women, you’ll come to a better understanding of what you are looking for in an “ideal partner”. In other words, you’ll come across people with traits that you absolutely adore and you’ll also come across traits that you absolutely despise. In addition to this, every woman you meet will have her own unique story and this gives you an opportunity to learn. Can I name all the varieties of red wine? Sure! Can I tell you which hand-cream is better (say between Crabtree & Evelyn and L’Occitane)? Definitely! Can I tell the difference between clothes from Alannah Hill and Wayne Cooper? To easy!
You may think all these “exciting” facts are pretty pointless but what happens when you are called upon to choose a bottle of red for some new clients that you entertaining? Which brand of hand cream are you going to buy your mum that best suits her needs for her birthday? “That Wayne Cooper dress you are wearing looks great on you!” sounds much better than “That dress looks great.” At the end of the day, your understanding of all these different lessons, encounters and experiences is what is going to set you apart. Meeting all these women and learning from each encounter is what is going to take you to the next level.
Hence, being an efficient dater is something that I would like you to think about when it comes to elevating yourself to the next level. There are 2 simple conditions that you must meet for you to become an efficient dater. The most important condition is that you must be organized i.e. preparation can go a long way. It’s like you fitting in a game of tennis with your buddies, taking your folks out for a Sunday dinner but then still have time to finish off your presentation for tomorrow’s work meeting – you just need to plan your days. My motto is: I live the present but I plan for the future. Lastly, having a fat-ass piggy bank wouldn’t hurt because I’m “assuming” that you’re going to pay for at least the first couple of dates for every women that you go out with. Come on! Be a gentleman!
Since you’re a gentleman please remember that being an efficient dater primarily means that you do not fail to give each woman the attention that she deserves. Yes, being efficient means that you do not waste any of your time but it also means not wasting her time as well. Don’t forget this! Now if you follow all of the above conditions, you will have the time of the life but there is downside to all of this (there always is!) It may be fun for a month or two but this isn’t sustainable and this means that you will ultimately need to choose.
You’re going to have a blast lining up your calendar with dates on every single night of the week but realistically, it’s only a matter of time when something gives way and that could be the girl who is most suitable for you – it’s time to choose! Women aren’t dumb! Emotional? “Yes”, but they will definitely know if something or someone else is on your mind. If she’s a clever one, she’ll break it off with you if she knows that she’ll have her heart broken. Anything is possible but if you got a full-time job, friends to meet up with, parents to take care of, something will eventually give way.
Now let’s relate the above point to investing in the stock market. Diversification (i.e. putting your “eggs” in multiple baskets) is great but if you have invested your money in IBM, Google, Apple, Coca Cola and Samsung, can you honestly tell me that you’re going to have enough time to manage each and every one of them with the same level of precision and detail? Unless you’re doing this full time, can you be certain that one of these companies won’t file for bankruptcy? Much like dating multiple women, one (or even all of the women) will feel that you’re not giving her the attention that she deserves and she will bust your balls or just leave you!
So how do I choose I hear you ask.
I’d hate to say this again but it just comes down to what you want. Think about it! As you meet more and more women, you’ll have a greater understanding of what you like and what you dislike (don’t confuse this with being picky!). If you eventually realize that one of the girls that you are dating is not your cup of tea, tell her! Like I said, being an efficient dater means not wasting your time but at the same time, not wasting her time. Now that’s what I call being a man! Now isn’t that simple? It’s like applying for a job – you could be a situation where you receive job offers left-right and centre, you can’t take every one so how in the hell are you going choose? By having an understanding of what you want.
So what am I doing this Sunday…?
I’m baking a cake with my Mum. Now that’s the final condition to being an efficient dater – don’t forget your mum!