Is it friends with benefits or friends ‘WITH’ benefits?

Is there ever something called "free sex"?Why Natalie Portman is so good at faking it.
By Jennifer A. Vox

The motion picture, which was recently released as part of the whole Valentine’s Day theme, tells a story about a male and female whose friendship is purely based on a “physical connection”. Yes, they are having fun for as long as they can – lots of passionate-rough-and-tumble sex, instant rushes, full-on intensity, and ridiculously crazy surprises. Sex with no strings attached is hell lots of FUN!

However, things change once one party decides that they want more than just the wild romps in bed. Luckily for the couple, the movie ends with a happy solution. Ahhh… Hollywood movies are such a cliché! I’m sure you know the answer.

Regrettably, not all ‘FWB’ situations end with a happy ending – especially in this day and age. Only a few make it to exclusive relationships, the rest just go pear-shaped. I’m a firm believer that the ‘FWB’ situation only works for guys. I mean, what benefit does it bring for girls? I mean really. Women are not designed to handle emotions as good as men, particularly from the whole lovey-dovey-bonding point of view. Experts believe that the more often a girl is sleeping with a guy who gives her pleasure, the more she will get attached to her sex partner(s).

Sometimes, girls agree to sleep with a guy with no strings attached – merely hoping that there’s an opportunity to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Guys can smell this “primal need” a mile away and in turn, would merely use the girl to his advantage. Cardinal Rule #1: DO NOT… Continue reading


Mastering the Quintessential Date

The “Date” before the First Date

Which of the following options would be an ideal first encounter with someone that you’ve just met?

  1. Drinks at a quiet bar in Surry Hills for inner city workers on Tuesday night
  2. Dinner and then ice-cream whilst sitting on the seats facing the Harbour Bridge on Wednesday night
  3. Karaoke with his / her friends and then dinner as group at Darling Harbour on Thursday night
  4. Pre-dinner drinks at a bar, followed by a fancy dinner, movie and then a scenic walk around Circular Quay on Friday night
  5. Brunch in a bustling inner city café in Paddington on Saturday morning
  6. Light lunch and a coffee in a quiet café at Dawes Point whilst watching people go by on early Sunday afternoon

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It’s Love At First Sight

Your personality comes second… Seriously

[… … … Wow! She doesn’t look too bad – absolutely amazing as a matter of fact. She pulls off that backless crimson-red dress effortlessly – the length is just right. I love how it carefully accentuates her hour-glass figure whilst showcasing the elegant contours of her porcelain skin back. Her legs epitomise the beauty of the female form with its length and tone as they extend into a pair of classic jet black 3.5 inch patent leather pumps – a cut-out detail at the peep toe reveals matching red nail polish. A gentle lift of her heel exhibits the signature red leather sole that provides a sharp contrast to the black patent leather but gives further prominence to her red dress. This girl dresses very well I must say – Check. I believe she’s Chinese. Her bob hairstyle with its subtle layering of her jet black hair gives her a very sophisticated look that brings attention to the sharpness of her symmetrical face. Her porcelain white skin is contrasted against the redness of her full-body lips. Her almond-shaped eyes, highlighted ever so slightly with mascara and long-curled lashes, provide a window of mystery to her inner sanctum. This girl looks gorgeous – Check … … …]

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Concentrate on what is most important.

Diary Entry
6th September 2010
Finding “The One”!

I jumped on eHarmony a couple of weeks ago. You know what I’m talking about – the dating website with those groovy commercials that always showed happily married couples where they “pre-screen your matches based on 29 dimensions of deep meaningful capability”. That and the fact that “Love begins here” was too good to refuse.

So after filling in the 75 page love compatibility questionnaire that took me a good 10 or so hours to complete, I come across SeductiveSirenSally69; 5 foot 9, black hair, athletic build, non-smoker, PHD qualified, atheist, right-wing extremist, ½ Spanish – ½ Chinese, earns > $900,000, loves Chinese food and with a headline that caused me to pitch a tent.

After exchanging a couple of “kisses” we decided to meet up for a coffee. Now to make sure that I was on my A-Game, I decided to bring my MacBook Pro so I could check for places to go after coffee, my iPod in case she wanted to sing along to some tunes, my iPhone 4 to check the latest movie times and my iPad to showcase to her my latest logo designs.

Come to think of it I was pretty prepared for date night until

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You are going to get Rejected!

Be a man – deal with it or go have a whinge!

“Hi, how are you doing?” [- No response -]
Girl with the red silk scarf just walks away.

“Hi, how are you doing?” [- No response -]
Girl with the blue cocktail dress looks at you but then just walks away.

“Hi, how are you doing?” [She says, “Go away!”]
Girl with the black knee-high boots responds but does not give you any eye contact.

“Hi, how are you doing?” [She says, “Fine.”]
Girl with the white trench-coat responds but then proceeds to walk away.

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Being an Efficient Dater!

“Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity”

Week starting August 23rd, 2010
Lunch with Melanie at Sushi-Rio (26, business analyst for IBM, ballerina)
Dinner with Mary at Nick’s Bar and Grill (25, fashion designer, whale lover)
Breakfast with Melissa at The Rocks Café (27, accountant, Twilight fanatic)
Afternoon coffee with Marianne at Lindt Café (25, make-up artist, fine-diner)
Movie with Mindy at the local cinemas (23, medical student, painter)
Bay run with Mabel at Canada Bay (26, business owner, endless shoe collection)

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Telling Her How It Is!

Not being afraid to bust her “balls”!

It’s 8pm on a bleak winter’s night as you walk out of the office building – an atrocious day is a far cry of a description of what you had to endure today. The bustling city-folk, the ever-present traffic and the vibrant rays of sunlight that every so often pieced through the blanket of clouds and then onto the city landscape has now been replaced by howls of wind across a solitary stretch of darkness.

The day is not over yet because you still need to pick up your laptop from your girlfriend’s place – you called her during lunch to inform her that you would be over at 9pm. It’s 8.45pm and you hop into a cab to her place – getting that laptop in preparation for a client presentation tomorrow morning is imperative. You arrive on time and ring her doorbell – No answer. You try calling her mobile – No answer. You decide to wait 15 minutes knowing that punctuality has never been her forte. You ring her doorbell again – Still no answer. You made it very clear to her at lunch time that you need your laptop back. It’s 9.25pm now and the day has finally caught up with you. Exhaustion weights upon you like a dead-weight and the last thing that you want to do is to wait for her out in the cold. At the same time, however, a sense of urgency starts to dawn upon you because you fear something has happened to her. 9.35pm rolls around and you call her again – Still no answer. Your Blackberry shows that it is now 9.50pm – you’ve been waiting for close to an hour but you can’t leave without your laptop.

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The Importance of Knowing What You Want!

“Hey, I’m not picky. I just know what I want.”


What a guy wants!

16 years old: ANYTHING!

19 years old: SMOKING HOT!

22 years old: Nice body / Nice body / Nice body / Intelligent / Sense of humour / Have I said nice body?

25 years old: Nice body / Down-to-earth attitude / Great sense of humour / Considerate of my needs / Able to hold a conversation

28 years old: Stands by me no matter what

40 years old: Whatever I can get! / Someone half my age?

So what does a girl want?

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Dealing with “The” Female!

A male wants a female to understand him whereas a female wants a male to love her. When it comes to this female however, a male must love AND understand her.

I met Claudia about a few months ago using my simple “Hey, how are you going?” line on a wintry Saturday night outside an apartment building in downtown Chinatown. She wore these enchanting cream-coloured gloves that had three glistening diamonds encrusted on the back – she held a cigarette on her right hand whilst holding a Blackberry on her left. I could see the cigarette smoke disperse into the air as she gently exhaled – her lush pink lips added to her seductive appeal. She wore a light grey BOSS coat that rested nicely on her shoulders. At the end of her snug-fitting dark blue Nudie jeans was a pair of ankle-high chocolate brown boots. However, it wasn’t what she was wearing that caught my eye. What really caught my attention on that chilly Saturday night was the fact that this girl was extremely comfortable in her own skin. First impressions are paramount and this girl definitely had a distinctive aura about her. I only spoke to her briefly before departing with her digits but here was a girl who displayed confidence by the way she spoke. She was forthright but her witty comments provided a delicate balance.

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Reading her Body Language (and your own)!

“Err… so… um… why is she touching me?

Larry:   “Hey there! What’s happening? My name is Larry.” [Extends his hand out]

Lisa: “Nothing much – just waiting for my girlfriend.” [Keeps her hand on her lap whilst her eyes scan the room looking for her girlfriend]

Larry:   [Retracts his hand] “I see. Um… Yeah… Great night isn’t it? This is the first time I’ve been to a comedy club. So what do you do?”

Lisa: “I’m a medical student.” [She switches her body position to face away from him]

Larry:   “Whoa! That must be tough. So… do you like… dissect humans and stuff? I work in insurance. Yeah, I always wanted to meet a doctor. Do you come here often?” [He walks around the table so that he faces her again]

Lisa: “Oh that’s great.” [She flashes a quick smile]

Larry:   “Yeah, it must be my lucky night then.” [Chuckles] “So what are you doing this weekend. I’m going to play golf with some friends from work. Do you like golf? [Does a quick practice swing in front of her]

Lisa: “No” [She now places her right hand on her forehand whilst resting her elbow on the table]

Larry:   “Oh, yeah – golf is a tough sport but you get use to it. Do you know what I mean? Sorry but my friend just arrived so I have to leave now. Do you want to go for a coffee this weekend? What’s your number?”

Lisa: … … …

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