To my followers, you know that meeting women on CityRail trains is my forte and if you’re a first time subscriber, you can click here to find out why. Meeting women is just FUN and just like Valentine’s Day, it’s all about being creative. Meeting Renee* on the 10.33pm train back home sure put a smile on my face because I got her number without saying a single word.
Here’s the experience – Renee* was sitting on a two-seater whilst I was sitting close to her on one of those three-seaters. Sensing the very exhausted look on her face, I took out my notepad, wrote “Hi, my name is Jeff. Long day at work?” and then I handed it to her. Why did I write my greeting on a notepad? Because she had her headphones on.
So did it work? Well, she wrote back “Hey, I’m Renee*. I had a difficult client today. F*ck my life! How about yourself?” The rest they say is history. Now that’s GP!
Although not directly on par with what John (Owen Wilson) and Jeremy (Vince Vaughn) did in the 2005 smash-hit “Wedding Crashers”, where the duo would crash weddings for the sole purpose of meeting, picking up and eventually bedding women frenzied by the mere thought of marriage, just remember that it was just a movie whereas my experience is something that is far from difficult to achieve.
For those who have been following in the footsteps of the GP, you know that being able to spot opportunity is the first and easiest step to meeting women. Whether you’re walking along a street in the heart of the CBD or you’re sitting down at a café having lunch, if you’re serious about meeting women (or people in general as a matter of fact), all you need to do is open your eyes. Meeting Stephanie* at my friend’s wedding was no different.
So let me tell you about this experience – I’m sure we’ve all been to weddings where we have absolutely no idea who the other people are on the table. Put simply, apart from the date that you may or may not have brought with you, YOU DON’T KNOW ANYONE because since you’re not really close to the wedding party, one of the bridesmaids puts you on the “miscellaneous” table. Now Stephanie* was on one of these tables.
I’m sure a lot of you have submitted your annual leave, booked your tickets and packed your bags – ready to disembark on your much-deserved holiday. With that said, it is befitting that I share with you all this past GP Experience that occurred to me whilst I was on holiday in Singapore at the end of last year.
I do not need to remind you that opportunities to meet people are EVERYWHERE and this is no different to the waitress that I met working at the VERY GLITZY club level at Ritz Carlton Singapore.
So let me tell you about this experience – after coming over to my table to clear out what’s left of my once delectable breakfast, I used my favourite line of them all i.e. “Hey, how are doing?” to see if she was interested in having a conversation. Obviously in these situations, it would be rude for her to just ignore you because you are the hotel guest. Hence, it’s very difficult to gauge whether or not there is genuine interest. The afternoon comes around and since the majority of 5-star club levels offer its guests 3 meals a day, I decided to take a break from sightseeing and head up to the club level for lunch. Low and behold I saw her again and once again, I said “Hey, how are doing?” Luckily, the club level was quite quiet at this time so we able to have a much longer conversation. The conversation continued and she told me that she finished work at 3.00pm and that she didn’t have any plans for the rest of the day (DING DING DING – Jackpot!).
The dynamics are completely different when it comes to approaching a girl in a group. In addition to making a strong first impression on the girl that you are interested in, you also need to make her friends think that you are “God’s gift to women” because you’re going home alone if she has to decide between you and her friends.
Now such a situation occurred when I went out to a bar a couple of weeks back. As I made my way to the bar for a drink, there was a girl sitting with a group of 4 other girls. She caught my attention straight away because she wore this sleek backless red dress with a flower ornament placed in her hair. To a lot of people, this is a no go zone because how in the hell are you going to penetrate a wall of “glossy” women. To me, approaching a girl in a group provides a whole different level of excitement because although one of them has caught your eye, you still need to charm every single one of them so none of them feels left out.
If you carefully observe your surroundings, you will realise there are so many opportunities for you to meet women. The only thing you need to do then is to muster up the courage to just say, “Hey, how are doing?”
Definitely easier said than done but what I’m about to say is a perfect example of seizing the opportunity. Now I’m sure that such a situation would occur every day – all it takes is a well trained eye in reading body language.
It was past mid-night on Saturday morning and as I was walking out of the bar, I saw this girl sitting on the building steps looking somewhat bored. I knew that this was the case because she was holding her head up with her right hand whilst continuously looking at her watch on her left. Sensing that she was probably waiting for someone to pick her up, I politely said… Continue reading →
One of the greatest joys in life which never fails to put a smile on my face is the thrill of approaching, conversing & then finally connecting with someone with whom I’ve just met 15 minutes ago. In this particular case, all I needed was 5 minutes!
The reason why I don’t have a problem meeting new people is not because I’m not afraid to say, “Hey, how are you doing?” but it’s because I do not hesitate the slightest when there is an opportunity to strike up a conversation.
Whilst I was waiting for my friend to come down from his apartment, I saw this girl standing by herself on the steps of her apartment foyer – she was holding a cigarette in her right-hand whilst speaking on the phone with her left. After she placed her phone back into her coat, I then saw her look around and check her watch profusely – straight away I knew that she was also waiting for someone and that person was running very late.
It was the second time I saw Michelle* on a train back home – on the first time she was sitting on the other end of the carriage so it was very difficult for me to go talk to her. Now on this second time however, she sat directly in-front of me. “Jackpot!” I said to myself.
Now I absolutely love striking up a conversation in the oddest of moments – saying “Hi, how are you doing?” on a train packed with people is definitely one of them. What made this situation even more interesting what that she was listening to her iPod whilst flicking through a magazine. Now you’re probably asking me “How in hell do you a strike up a conversation with someone who is neither looking at you nor able to hear what you say?”
I always recommend being creative in everything that you do so what happened next was that I then took out my phone, wrote… Continue reading →