Invaluable Lesson from a Movie – “Shawshank Redemption”

“Get busy living or get busy dying” sums up what this classic move is all about.

The movie centres on Andy Dufrense, Tim Robbins, a successful banker who is incorrectly sentenced to life in prison for the murder of his wife and her lover. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, Andy embarks on new found journey in the 20 odd years he is at Shawshank prison before his eventual escape. During his time, with the help of Red (Morgan Freeman) and the other prison inmates, he was able to convert a section of prison into a library, he was able to educate a young inmate so that he could receive his General Education Diploma (a test to certify that the taker has high-school academic skills) and personally for Andy to protect him from the other inmates, he became the warden’s private accountant. Although Andy lived a somewhat “better” life than the other inmates, he knew he did not belong in prison.

A memorable scene that gives a glimpse of how Andy eventually escapes, although you would have least expected it, was when Red handed Andy his rock-hammer.

Andy: “Well, if there’s any trouble, I won’t use the rock-hammer. Ok?”

Red: “Then I guess you wanna escape. Tunnel under the wall, maybe? [Andy laughs] Did I miss something here? What’s funny?”

Andy: “You’ll understand when you see the rock-hammer.”

The rock-hammer was 6-7 inches in length and “ALL” it took were the 20 odd years for Andy to dig into the side of his prison wall so that he could escape in a narrow sewerage pipe.

There are many themes that run through this movie but there is one that stands out like a deer in the headlights. The lesson to be learnt from this theme is such an invaluable one so it should be understood by all: even though Andy was sentenced to a crime he did not commit, he was able to maintain his integrity and to even make the best out of the situation no matter how horrid or hopeless the situation he was in. Now if we extend this to life’s other obstacles i.e. failure to meet a partner or dealing with a personal tragedy, realising your self-worth is one of those things that is going to give you light at the end of the tunnel. I’d hate to repeat myself but when push really comes to shove, you’ve got two choices: complain about the situation and never get anywhere or fight-like-hell. If you’re fighting-like-hell, you might as well enjoy the ride.

Invaluable Lesson from a Movie – “The Bucket List”

“The Bucket List” starring old-school Hollywood heavyweights Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman is a truly inspirational story that literally brought tears to my eyes (Yes, I agree that real men cry but thinking back to when I watched this movie, something was probably caught in my eyes). The movie’s central theme is that no matter how successful you are or how much money you make, death is what puts everyone on par.

The foundations of the movie are set when it shows the contrast in lives between Edward Cole (Jack Nicholson) and Carter Chambers (Morgan Freeman) – Edward is a corporate billionaire who actually owns the hospital he is staying in whilst Carter is a working class mechanic. Now what’s common amongst these 2 very different individuals is that they share the same illness. While sharing a hospital room, Edward and Carter become the best of friends and instead of lying in bed to face their inevitable demise, they decide to go out on a last “hoo-hah”. With that said, they get out of hospital and do all the things they have ever wanted to do before they die according to their bucket list.

I’m obviously not telling you the ending but during their time together, they both help each to find the ultimate joy in their lives. “The Bucket List” is an amazing movie on camaraderie, on family and last but not least, focusing on what really matters.

Invaluable Lesson from a Movie – “He’s Just Not That Into You”

“He’s Just Not That Into You” is a classic romantic comedy that delves into the complexities of understanding human behaviour when it comes to love and relationships through the eyes of 9 interconnecting characters.

There was one notable relationship in the movie that showed that there are really no hard and fast rules when it comes to attraction. When Alex (Justin Long) constantly gives Gigi (Ginnifer Goodwin) dating advice on her lacklustre love-life, Gigi eventually falls for Alex from applying the advice he is giving her. For example, Alex told her that a guy would always try to contact the girl if he’s interested. Now since Alex is constantly calling Gigi to “help” her with her love-life, Gigi interprets this as a sure sign that Alex is interested. What’s ironic here is that when Gigi tries to give Alex a kiss, Alex turns away and tells Gigi that she has completely misread the signals.

You would have thought that this would be the end of it but as the move comes to a close, Alex then realises that he has in fact fallen for Gigi. So what did I say about there being no hard and fast rules when it comes to attraction? If you didn’t know already, I’m sure you can now understand why attraction, and to a deeper extent love, can be very confusing!

Invaluable Lesson from a Movie – “Kung Fu Panda”

“Kung Fu Panda” is more than just a family-friendly movie. When Po (the panda) finally receives the infamous Dragon Scroll which is said to hold the secret to limitless power, Po merely sees a reflection of himself. In other words, your greatest worth is what you have inside you i.e. believing in yourself is your greatest power.

Now such a simple and inspirational lesson holds true in all aspects of our lives and dating is no different. The greatest gift that you can offer the girl that you are currently dating, your girlfriend, your partner and everyone else that is in your life is YOU. Never underestimate the capabilities of what you and your mind can achieve because at the end of the day, if you believe in yourself, no one ever can take away from you.