Invaluable Lesson from a Song – “Juicy”

The chorus to this song speaks for itself, “You know very well who you are. Don’t let em hold you down, reach for the stars. You had a goal, but not that many ’cause you’re the only one I’ll give you good and plenty.”

Sung by one of the most talented American rappers of all time, “Juicy” is a timeless song with a simple message i.e. going after your dreams. Depending on how you see it, having a sense of security as opposed to doing what you really want to do in life, is more often than not, favoured by many in today’s society.

I’m sure that you have family, friends and colleagues who have dreams and aspirations to do bigger and brighter things but the fear of the unknown stops them in their tracks. To me, there’s nothing worse than sitting in a dead-end job that you absolutely despise no matter how big the pay-check is.

Notorious B.I.G and his song “Juicy” is a testament to what can be achieved if you just have the courage to just go after your dreams. In his particular case, he combined his passion for music with his natural ability to rap and this made all the difference.

Books that Inspire the GP – “Who Moved My Cheese?”

Title: “Who Moved My Cheese?”
Author: Spencer Johnson

Change is inevitable – you either accept it knowing it will provide you with a new enriching experience or you let it slap you on the face because you refuse to adapt. Now applying this to dating, if you’re constantly sitting on your ass on a Saturday night because you can’t find a date then you know it’s time for you to change tactics.

“Who Moved My Cheese?” is a parable on change that centres on 4 main characters looking for cheese in a maze. The “cheese” is actually a symbolic item that represents what we have in our lives i.e. relationships, money, family, job etc.

In this very enlightening book, Johnson provides the reader with two opposing views on how to deal with change. Hem and Haw are “Little Beings” who are lazy and refuse to change and as a result of this, they fail to find cheese to feed themselves because the section of the maze that once had an abundant supply is now depleted. Sniff and Scurry on the other hand are mice and instead of waiting for that certain section of the maze to re-stock itself, they realise that they would need to find a new source of cheese so they decide to venture out into the other sections of the maze.

The message in this book is presented in a very simple way. Ultimately, embracing change is all about becoming a better you. When get out of your comfort zone and place yourself in an unknown environment, the experience can only benefit you.

Accessories that Make the GP – Cologne

There’s no denying that it is your physical appearance that is going to get you a wink from across the table. If you then approach her (or even better if she approaches you) and you smell like a barn-yard animal, you only have yourself to blame when she pulls a hard right.

So what’s another item that makes the GentlemanPlayer?
Decent cologne

Now when I mean decent, I don’t mean something that you can get for $10.95 at the local supermarket. I’m not going to name names here but I’m sure you know what I mean – a special “feline effect” anyone? In the majority of our purchases, a huge cost associated with it has to do with buying the brand – this is something that can rarely be avoided. So when it comes to decent cologne, quality and price are generally aligned so the more you pay for a certain type, the more value you should get from it.

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Dating Tip – Learning to say “No, thank you – I’m not interested”

Getting attention from the opposite sex can be quite flattering at times but it becomes bit of problem when you don’t know how to say “No”.

I’m sure you’ve been in a situation where you are constantly being chased by a girl and although you wouldn’t be caught dead in her presence, you just don’t say “No” to her. You might just say you’re “busy” or “some other time” but what this actually does is give her a glimmering hope that you are somewhat interested. Now you then might complain to your mates that you’ve got this sick-twisted-demented woman who is hell-bent on making you her man but all along, it’s really you who has got yourself into this mess because you haven’t made your intentions clear.

Learning to say “No, thank you – I’m in not interested” means that you’re not wasting your time and above all, you’re not wasting her time. Honesty can go a long way.

GP Experience – The Girl in the Group

The dynamics are completely different when it comes to approaching a girl in a group. In addition to making a strong first impression on the girl that you are interested in, you also need to make her friends think that you are “God’s gift to women” because you’re going home alone if she has to decide between you and her friends.

Now such a situation occurred when I went out to a bar a couple of weeks back. As I made my way to the bar for a drink, there was a girl sitting with a group of 4 other girls. She caught my attention straight away because she wore this sleek backless red dress with a flower ornament placed in her hair. To a lot of people, this is a no go zone because how in the hell are you going to penetrate a wall of “glossy” women. To me, approaching a girl in a group provides a whole different level of excitement because although one of them has caught your eye, you still need to charm every single one of them so none of them feels left out.

Since I’m very simple guy, a simple… Continue reading